I was making love with the Universe today….It was looking at me through the eyes of my beloved. It was filling me in with the divine energy channeled through his lingam. I saw the space and cosmic power in his eyes, like Gods themselves, were looking down at me. I opened up my soul completely and surrounded to this beautiful download of eternal love and bliss. My body felt so small combined with the elevated emotions I was experiencing, the joy and happiness were in such expansion that at some point I thought my whole human being will explode. I couldn’t hold this wave of PURE LOVE inside of me so it was released through the happy tears of the Universal love overflow.
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We must bring relaxation into the sexual act so that it becomes a magic unfolding rather than a fixed routine.
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Allow yourself to be seen and penetrated by nature.
Before I was only reading about those tantric practices of deep soul lovemaking. When beloved connect deeply through the Love keys – eyes, touch, and words this potent combination of soul energies can be accompanied by shaking, laughing, or tears. I got my first tears release and it was amazing.
More than a year ago I watched a beautiful Mindvalley workshop by Bibi Brzozka about energetical lovemaking. She was talking about how our society was taught to have junk sex – fast round, with not much intention, with the main goal just to get over it – the same way as we put junk food in our bodies to deal with hunger. She told us about the magical experience of energetical lovemaking, where people (on their own or with a partner) experience the cosmic journey to pleasure and into the deep knowledge of their divine nature.
I started reading the books Bibi suggested and discovered that the way most people make love now is by bringing them a short satisfaction and then the feeling of emptiness at the end. While at ancient times lovemaking was honored as a sacred process and ritual of getting more nourishing and creative energy into the body. How? By connecting to ourselves and the Universe itself.
What are the first steps for conscious lovemaking? They can be performed on your own or with your partner. But it’s better first to connect to your own divine sexuality first.
Proper environment
Setup your lovemaking environment. Make it a sacred ritual: sensual music, the beautiful smell in the room, candles, petals of the flowers. Honor yourself and your partner with an atmosphere of pleasure and relaxation.
Long foreplay
Don’t go directly to the lingam and yoni. Prepare your body and let it wake up. Start activating it from the top of the head, by caressing the face and soft kisses. Touching gently and neck and chest/breasts. Explore the areas of the body that could have been neglected before (like the inner sides of your arms, tights, belly area, and the lower back).
Deep breathing
If you watched (and we all did) porn movies you can see that during the sex partners start breathing very intensively through the short breath. This type of breath activates fight or flight mode in the human body, which doesn’t allow you to relax. Start practicing deep calm breathing when making love with yourself or your partner. If you want to try a more sophisticated level – imagine how with every breath the energy from your root chakra is moving up the spine and with every breath, it falls downs from the top of your head like a waterfall.
Skip goal-oriented approach
Expecting to have an orgasm every time you have sex is another standard that was put on us by mass-media books and movies. Tantra practices say that concentrating on the goal (orgasm) doesn’t allow you to enjoy the journey itself. Relax and let go of all the thoughts and standards of how it is supposed to be and just stay in the flow. If it happens, it happens, if not – also perfect. If you let go of the orgasm goal during the lovemaking you will see how more relaxed you and your partner become. When there’s no pressure and no expectation – there is more space for complete relaxation and flow.
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With no goals each sexual moment becomes a world of love unto itself.
Stay in the valley
After closing the lovemaking session don’t jump off the bed and run into the shower, or whatever you used to do. Stay with your feelings and your sensations. You can continue gently interacting with your body or with your partner and explore new amazing sensations you never thought existed.
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May you be loved. By yourself. By your partner. By the Universe.
by Tania Lus